Change can be daunting or exciting. It doesn’t matter what the change. It can be a change in your relationships, your career, where you live or a decision to change something about yourself, for example, to lose weight.
However, it’s important to know the correct way to handle the change that has happened if you want to make an easy transition.
I often get asked “how do you handle change that happens in your life” and I wanted to help you know the best way to prepare and maneuver life’s transitions, no matter what is, by sharing these 5 tips.
The following might surprise you, but believe it or not they are the most important points when trying to understand the concept of change and transition.
1) One of the most important things is that change is constant. If you look back over your life you will notice that several important changes happened to get you where you are now. Expect that change will come. Whether it is a change we have chosen for ourselves or one that is unexpected, change will continue as long as we are on this earth.
2) Another critical component is that change and transition are not the same. Change is the external one time event when an old situation in our life ends and something new begins. It may be imposed or self-imposed. Transition is the emotional process we go through when change happens. It is gradually letting go of how things were and embracing how things might become.
3) Additionally you can increase your resilience. Resilience is the ability to withstand stress and recover from misfortune. It is being flexible during your transition. We do that by thinking accurately. To think accurately we must calm our emotions and see things the way they really are. I recommend the book “The Resilience Factor” by Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte as a great tool to help bolster your resilience.
4) When it comes to change and transition, it’s also important to have a good support system. Support systems include your spouse, family, friends, church, etc. God did not create us to be Long Rangers. Even he had Tonto! We were created to help and support each other through life’s challenges. We can encourage and hold each other accountable when we want to make change. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, “9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”
5) Finally, embrace the change. Some changes are definitely harder to accept than other, especially if loss is involved. However, if you do not accept that your life will be different and choose to move forward and see the good that is still there, you will be stuck and unhappy. Think back. Do you remember a change that happened that you did not think you would get through? How are you doing, right now? You survived!
The bottom line is: You can enjoy change. Few of us are living the lives we expected; however, we are still enjoying life. Don’t fear change. Allow yourself to embrace the new and expect great things to come!
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