Guest blogger Kimberly Poteat shares her story and tips she has personally used when she came face to face with unexpected change!
Do you remember that feeling you got the moment you saw that plus sign, blue line, or smiley face? In that exact moment you were happy, scared, even excited! Your whole world is about to change; in that exact second you have entered Motherhood! Then, after the initial excitement, reality sets in.
I remember the day I found out I was pregnant with my son. I was ecstatic. I was in disbelief. I wanted to be a mom so badly and it was finally happening. I was excited to go to every doctor’s appointment. It was exciting to see my growing belly. That is until I turned 20 weeks pregnant. Our reality became very scary.
My husband and I go to our doctor’s appointment for an ultrasound. We are led to an exam room where I step up on the chair and lean back to have that warm ultrasound goo placed on my stomach. I am so excited to see how my little one is doing. The technician comes in and starts moving the ultrasound wand around. We found out that we are having a boy. We also found out that our baby had some extra things going on with him. Our son had a heart condition and fluid on the brain. My heart sank. I wanted my son more then anything.
I knew I had to do everything I could to stay strong. I had to make some really tough decisions during my pregnancy. I was going through a lot of stressful situations during my pregnancy on top of finding out what medical issues my son faced. Something that was supposed to be the happiest moment of my life became the most terrifying and stressful time of my life.
Some days were easier than others. There were days where I didn’t want to get out of bed but I had to. “My child needs me”, I said that to myself I do not know how many times. I wanted to be that person my son counts on, he has to know he has a strong mommy and that I am his rock. I sung to him and played music to him in my belly every day. I loved feeling his movements, they were so reassuring. When we went for a 3D ultrasound, it was so amazing to see him growing and moving around. I just hung on to hope. Hope is what got me through all the tough situations. I hope my son proves these doctors wrong and comes out a fighter. I hope I can be the parent that is strong enough to go through all of these trials with him.
Here are some tips that helped me deal with unexpected news:
- It is okay to cry and take some time for yourself.
- Find people who can relate, whether it be a family member or support group
- Surround yourself with loved ones.
- Keep a journal; write everything down (thoughts, feelings, etc.).
- Read happy things as much as possible!
Today my son is stronger than ever and he is doing great! He still has a way to go but he has proved those doctors wrong. Our children are strong because we show them what strong looks like.
You can walk away and have a good cry over stressful situations as long as in the end you pick your head up and hold it high and let everyone know that this is temporary and it too shall pass. I say that every time I am having a bad day. I know what my son is capable of, and I now know what I am capable of, too! My love for my child is unconditional; I will do anything for him. I stay strong for him and that’s all we can do is be the best for our children so they can be their best.
Kim is a stay-at-home mom with a wonderful little boy. You can hear all about him at https://www.happymommytiredmommy.com. Do not hesitate to contact Kim if your child is in the hospital and you need some emotional support.