Dealing with the Negative Emotions of Change Pt. 4

When there is an unexpected change, we normally react in one or more of the following ways: anxiety, fear, sadness and anger.  The change can be either negative or positive. The final negative emotion we will focus on is fear.

Many questions come with change.  I lost my job. Will I be able to pay my bills?  I’ve been diagnosed with a serious illness. What will be the outcome?  What about my family?  

I’m going to have a baby.  Will I be a good parent?  I got a promotion.  Can I handle the responsibility that comes with this new position?  We’re moving to another state.  Will we find the perfect house and neighborhood?  Will my kids like their new school?  Will it be easy for them to make friends?

 As you may have noticed, some level of fear can be attached to change.  Even if the change is good or something you want, there is still element of the unknown that goes along with it.  And that brings up questions, questions that come from the fear.  However, you do not want fear to keep you in bondage regarding the outcome.  When you allow fear to invade your thoughts, you make the transition more stressful than it needs to be.  Yes, there is some level of stress during change, but you want your transition to be smooth with as little stress as possible.  You can do this by using the following ways :

1)  In Matthew 6:34 Jesus says “Take therefore no thought for tomorrow…”  Don’t be afraid of what may or may not happen in the future.  We can only do so much to prepare for it.  Make the choice to say “I will not be afraid.”

 2)  Give up control.  I know this is hard, but letting go of how you want everything to be is the key to being stress free.  When we try to control every aspect of our lives, it is fear at work. Fear is telling us “if we don’t do it all it won’t get done.”  Guess what?  We can’t do it all!  We’re not supposed to do it all.  Do what you can do and leave the rest to God.

3)  What are you thinking about your situation?  Is it negative or positive?  Are your thoughts telling you: “You won’t survive”?  “The move is going to be horrible”?  “My kids are going to be miserable”?  “I will fail in my new position”?  The reality is you don’t know the outcome.  So, challenge the thought.  Tell it “That’s not true, because…”, and answer with the true possibility.  For example, your kids may miss their school and friends; however, they will adapt, make new friends and thrive in their new location.

Expect good to happen and do not allow fear to make a time of transition a time to be stuck and full of stress.  Choose to have peace and a stress free time of transition!



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