Dealing with the Negative Emotions of Change Pt. 2

When there is an unexpected change, we normally react in one or more of the following ways: anxiety, fear, sadness and anger.  The change can be either negative or positive. In this month’s post we will focus on the emotion of anxiety.

Anxiety can sometimes be confused with worry.  The difference is worry is experienced in our thoughts and does not interfere with our daily life.  However, worry can feed into anxiety.  Anxiety is an emotion in which a person experiences an unpleasant state of inner turmoil usually accompanied by nervous behavior that may interfere with your job and social life.

Symptoms of anxiety include feeling out of control, distress, physical symptoms like trembling, sweating, nausea, dizziness, chest pain, headaches, and muscle tension. The stress of change in your life and its unknown results can cause anxiety.  Here’s what you can do if anxiety is plaguing you or a loved one:

1)  Pinpoint what it is about the change that is causing you so much stress.  Looking realistically at what has happened and what about it is causing you stress will help you find the best way(s) to work through your transition.

2)  What type of thoughts are you thinking?  Are they catastrophic?  By catastrophic I mean are you making a mountain out of a molehill.  For example, is the job layoff, that is a temporary situation, presenting itself that as being homeless living in a cardboard box?   Make sure you are thinking realistic thoughts so you can make realistic decisions regarding your situation.

3)  Pray, pray, pray.  Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (Philippians 4:6).  We have someone who is bigger and greater than anything we are facing.  We can take all of our problems to Him, trusting that He is there and is in control of the outcome.  When we do this, we are promised that “… the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).

4) Reduce the stress.  Exercise to decrease overall levels of tension, elevate and stabilize mood, and improve sleep, alertness and concentration. Even five minutes of aerobic exercise can begin to stimulate anti-anxiety effects.

5) Have a support system.  Get help from family, friends, and your church.  If they can be of assistance in any way, let them!  Do not let pride hinder you from getting the help you need.  Speak to a counselor or a coach.  They can help you navigate the new road you are on and help you overcome the negative aspects you are feeling.

We were not created to live in a constant mode of stress.  And we don’t have to. Using the above steps can help you transition smoother and have peace of mind.    


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