For years I struggled with being indecisive. I’m not just talking about big decisions, like which car I should purchase or where I would live. I mean small decisions like whether or not I should make a call or whether or not I should leave the house! I know crazy right? But this was my world! And it is a world that keeps trying to come back!
Guess what? We don’t have to live a crazy life of indecision. We were not created to live that way. God calls being indecisive being “double-minded”. In the book of James, He says that a “double-minded man is unstable in all of his ways”. This person goes back and forth continuously. When we are indecisive we do not have confidence in ourselves. We don’t trust our own instincts. The fruit of indecision comes from the seed of fear, fear of rejection to be exact. Will we be rejected because of the choice we made? Thinking this way keeps us on ground that is like an earthquake, always shifting so we are not able to keep our footing. We were not meant to live like this. God created us in His image. He is stable and we are to be stable, too.
If you know you have a pattern of going back and forth or questioning yourself when it comes to making decisions, below are some coaching questions that can help you explore your own unique process when you need to make a choice:
- What do you need to know to make a good decision? Knowing all of the pertinent information regarding the choice you need to make helps you to see the big picture.
- What would a great decision look like? Think about how you would feel when this decision is made. Use your imagination to see, feel and experience the best situation for yourself.
- What factors will make the most difference to you? Ask yourself what it is that you are willing to sacrifice for and what are deal breakers. Be honest about what is important to you and what you can walk away from.
By answering these questions you set up a firm foundation to build as you go through the decision making process. You build your confidence when you know what you want, not what you think others want for you. And what you want gives you the life you want to live!
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